More than a decade ago, I started out on my mothering journey with a simple premise: I was going to love the little baby growing inside of me like no one else could.

Monday, November 5, 2012

Gently and With Kindness

I mentioned in my last post that I was making an effort to treat myself well over the next few months.  This is something that I find challenging, in general.  For any mother, whether you have lots of kids, or only one or two, it can be hard to put your needs first.  As adults, we do have the capacity (which infants lack) of putting our needs aside for a short time to meet others needs.  We skip showers to make lunches, or to ensure that our homes aren't destroyed in the five minutes our small ones are unsupervised.  We wait to go to the bathroom because our little ones really need (fill in the blank here)! We give up sleep to care for teething children.  We skip doctor appointments because of extracurriculars, or teacher conferences, or just general busy-ness.  It's hard to say, "I matter too. Here is what I need."

As I mentioned, I am sharing this because it keeps me accountable.  So here is where I am:  I am taking my vitamins- some of them, anyway.  It's easier on the weekends, but I took time to do things I enjoy, on my own!  I took our puppy to obedience class on Saturday.  On Sunday I really pampered myself.  I took a 20 minute walk, the puppy and I went to the dog park for the first time, AND I took a snuggly nap with my 22 month old.  Plus I did two short workouts on  After spending some time meeting my needs, I felt so much more prepared to meet the needs of my husband and kids.

It's Monday, and I'm heading into a very busy week, full of appointments and volunteer obligations.  For the next few days, I am going to continue to work on being kind to myself and my family. I am going to be drinking lots of water and taking my vitamins.  I hope to take the time to walk every day and do a Totally Tummy Safe workout.  I don't have hours to go to the gym, but I think I can take two 15 minute sessions for myself.  I can treat myself gently, and with kindness.

What kindness will you offer yourself today?